Comments on: THE PROCESS OF PREDATION http://markhasty.com/archives/2004/03/23/the-process-of-predation/ E AHO LA'ULA Mon, 21 Jul 2008 01:27:31 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.2 by: seldom http://markhasty.com/archives/2004/03/23/the-process-of-predation/#comment-498 Wed, 31 Dec 1969 18:00:00 +0000 http://markhasty.com/archives/2004/03/23/the-process-of-predation/#comment-498 Nice work painting evil for what it is, Mark. Doesn't happen that often anymore. Nice work painting evil for what it is, Mark. Doesn’t happen that often anymore.

]]> by: Dave http://markhasty.com/archives/2004/03/23/the-process-of-predation/#comment-499 Wed, 31 Dec 1969 18:00:00 +0000 http://markhasty.com/archives/2004/03/23/the-process-of-predation/#comment-499 I don't remember where it's from - probably a movie - where one character is tempted to cheat on his s.o. with another woman. He finally realizes that he's unfairly comparing his own complex, real relationship to an idealized fantasy he's constructed for himself around this new person. With that realization, he chooses not to cheat. What you've presented here is only an extreme example of that. It's the temptation of fantasy that leads people to make poor decisions. What they often don't realize is that, eventually, all relationships become complex - and complex relationships work when both people have similar experiences and goals. But it's a hard lesson - and, unfortunately, not everyone learns it. I don’t remember where it’s from - probably a movie - where one character is tempted to cheat on his s.o. with another woman. He finally realizes that he’s unfairly comparing his own complex, real relationship to an idealized fantasy he’s constructed for himself around this new person. With that realization, he chooses not to cheat.

What you’ve presented here is only an extreme example of that. It’s the temptation of fantasy that leads people to make poor decisions. What they often don’t realize is that, eventually, all relationships become complex - and complex relationships work when both people have similar experiences and goals.

But it’s a hard lesson - and, unfortunately, not everyone learns it.

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