Comments on: BORN UNDER A BAD SIGN http://markhasty.com/archives/2004/07/18/born-under-a-bad-sign/ E AHO LA'ULA Fri, 21 Nov 2008 23:26:12 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.2 by: bryan http://markhasty.com/archives/2004/07/18/born-under-a-bad-sign/#comment-956 Wed, 31 Dec 1969 18:00:00 +0000 http://markhasty.com/archives/2004/07/18/born-under-a-bad-sign/#comment-956 I remember the first ultrasound on our first son. It was like such a relief that everything looked okay. I honestly don't understand how someone does what this woman did. I remember the first ultrasound on our first son. It was like such a relief that everything looked okay. I honestly don’t understand how someone does what this woman did.

]]> by: Mark Hasty http://markhasty.com/archives/2004/07/18/born-under-a-bad-sign/#comment-957 Wed, 31 Dec 1969 18:00:00 +0000 http://markhasty.com/archives/2004/07/18/born-under-a-bad-sign/#comment-957 I don't get it either, but then, I live in flyover country. I don’t get it either, but then, I live in flyover country.

]]> by: dw http://markhasty.com/archives/2004/07/18/born-under-a-bad-sign/#comment-958 Wed, 31 Dec 1969 18:00:00 +0000 http://markhasty.com/archives/2004/07/18/born-under-a-bad-sign/#comment-958 We had a similar experience when they thought at 5 weeks it was an ectopic pregnancy. Turns out the baby was fine, and the heart had just started -- looked like a blinking LED in the middle of a lentil. And I had doubts on and off throughout the pregnancy -- even a few weeks after she was born. Total ego moments of "my life is over" and "why did we do this when our life was so much better?" Now, she smiles at me just before she dumps a pound of greenish, sticky goop onto the changing table, and I'm happy, because SHE SMILED AT ME BECAUSE SHE LOVED ME AND SO ADORES ME SHE HAS NO PROBLEM POOPING RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME. Yes, it's terribly sad. As for this woman, geez. The Baby Boomers have a lot to answer for, what with their "Me Generation" and their attitude that they were the greatest thing to walk on the earth. Here you have a fine example of someone who is 34 going on 14, probably raised to believe that there's only one god, and it's here. Thanks Boomers. When Gen X cuts off your Social Security because it's too inconvenient for them to pay taxes, hope you enjoy what you have wrought. We had a similar experience when they thought at 5 weeks it was an ectopic pregnancy. Turns out the baby was fine, and the heart had just started — looked like a blinking LED in the middle of a lentil.

And I had doubts on and off throughout the pregnancy — even a few weeks after she was born. Total ego moments of “my life is over” and “why did we do this when our life was so much better?” Now, she smiles at me just before she dumps a pound of greenish, sticky goop onto the changing table, and I’m happy, because SHE SMILED AT ME BECAUSE SHE LOVED ME AND SO ADORES ME SHE HAS NO PROBLEM POOPING RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME.

Yes, it’s terribly sad.

As for this woman, geez. The Baby Boomers have a lot to answer for, what with their “Me Generation” and their attitude that they were the greatest thing to walk on the earth. Here you have a fine example of someone who is 34 going on 14, probably raised to believe that there’s only one god, and it’s here. Thanks Boomers. When Gen X cuts off your Social Security because it’s too inconvenient for them to pay taxes, hope you enjoy what you have wrought.

]]> by: Paul http://markhasty.com/archives/2004/07/18/born-under-a-bad-sign/#comment-959 Wed, 31 Dec 1969 18:00:00 +0000 http://markhasty.com/archives/2004/07/18/born-under-a-bad-sign/#comment-959 To be fair, the "adult" male half of the equation sounds like he might be more of a person than what the woman deserves to have in her life. Then again, the surviving baby (or child) does deserve to know someone with more heart ... To be fair, the “adult” male half of the equation sounds like he might be more of a person than what the woman deserves to have in her life. Then again, the surviving baby (or child) does deserve to know someone with more heart …

]]> by: Vidiot http://markhasty.com/archives/2004/07/18/born-under-a-bad-sign/#comment-960 Wed, 31 Dec 1969 18:00:00 +0000 http://markhasty.com/archives/2004/07/18/born-under-a-bad-sign/#comment-960 Well, I live in New York City and was appalled when I read that essay yesterday. It ain't just those who live in flyover country. I sat there in the Borders cafe in Fairfield, Connecticut, and just stared out the window for a little while after reading that. I'm pro-choice, so I'm inclined to agree with her, but the level of self-centeredness on display in that essay was <i>shocking</i>. Well, I live in New York City and was appalled when I read that essay yesterday. It ain’t just those who live in flyover country.

I sat there in the Borders cafe in Fairfield, Connecticut, and just stared out the window for a little while after reading that.

I’m pro-choice, so I’m inclined to agree with her, but the level of self-centeredness on display in that essay was shocking.

]]> by: Mark Hasty http://markhasty.com/archives/2004/07/18/born-under-a-bad-sign/#comment-961 Wed, 31 Dec 1969 18:00:00 +0000 http://markhasty.com/archives/2004/07/18/born-under-a-bad-sign/#comment-961 That's what stunned me too--did she read that thing before she agreed to publish it? Because it's one of the most appalling examples of both narcissism and hipster fascism I've ever read. That’s what stunned me too–did she read that thing before she agreed to publish it? Because it’s one of the most appalling examples of both narcissism and hipster fascism I’ve ever read.

]]> by: dw http://markhasty.com/archives/2004/07/18/born-under-a-bad-sign/#comment-962 Wed, 31 Dec 1969 18:00:00 +0000 http://markhasty.com/archives/2004/07/18/born-under-a-bad-sign/#comment-962 She did read it, Mark. In her mind, she's right. She did the right thing to preserve her lifestyle. Nothing in this article says otherwise. She has no regrets, because she made her world right in the most pragmatic way possible. And you know? As the firestorm descends upon her over the next few days, she will harden her beliefs even more. No person, especially no man has the right to tell her what is right. She is her own moral authority. I've read this article four times looking for a shred of humanity, a shred of admission that she is not the most important person on this planet. I can't find anything there, just a self-centered prat who thinks and acts like the kids who she had selectively terminated. I've never seen a more compelling argument for reasonable curbs on abortion. She did read it, Mark. In her mind, she’s right. She did the right thing to preserve her lifestyle. Nothing in this article says otherwise. She has no regrets, because she made her world right in the most pragmatic way possible. And you know? As the firestorm descends upon her over the next few days, she will harden her beliefs even more. No person, especially no man has the right to tell her what is right. She is her own moral authority.

I’ve read this article four times looking for a shred of humanity, a shred of admission that she is not the most important person on this planet. I can’t find anything there, just a self-centered prat who thinks and acts like the kids who she had selectively terminated.

I’ve never seen a more compelling argument for reasonable curbs on abortion.

]]> by: Zygote http://markhasty.com/archives/2004/07/18/born-under-a-bad-sign/#comment-963 Wed, 31 Dec 1969 18:00:00 +0000 http://markhasty.com/archives/2004/07/18/born-under-a-bad-sign/#comment-963 As a new dad who is watching his lifestyle being changed by the second -- diapers everywhere, every road trip involving enough equipment to safely land, and return, men to the moon, limited sleep, sex (what's that?) and time to do anything. The only reason my 350Z hasn't been traded in for a sedan or SUV is because it would cost us an arm and a leg to get out of the lease, but when it runs up, it's gone too. When he smiles at me, grabs my finger and rubs his face into my neck in his sleep, well damn it, my lifestyle doesn't look all that great. As a new dad who is watching his lifestyle being changed by the second — diapers everywhere, every road trip involving enough equipment to safely land, and return, men to the moon, limited sleep, sex (what’s that?) and time to do anything.
The only reason my 350Z hasn’t been traded in for a sedan or SUV is because it would cost us an arm and a leg to get out of the lease, but when it runs up, it’s gone too.
When he smiles at me, grabs my finger and rubs his face into my neck in his sleep, well damn it, my lifestyle doesn’t look all that great.

]]> by: Mark Hasty http://markhasty.com/archives/2004/07/18/born-under-a-bad-sign/#comment-964 Wed, 31 Dec 1969 18:00:00 +0000 http://markhasty.com/archives/2004/07/18/born-under-a-bad-sign/#comment-964 dw: If that's what it means to be your own moral authority, who would want to be? Zygote: I hear you, but I was boring before I had kids, and parenthood hasn't changed/isn't likely to change that! dw:

If that’s what it means to be your own moral authority, who would want to be?

Zygote:

I hear you, but I was boring before I had kids, and parenthood hasn’t changed/isn’t likely to change that!

]]> by: Kennedy http://markhasty.com/archives/2004/07/18/born-under-a-bad-sign/#comment-965 Wed, 31 Dec 1969 18:00:00 +0000 http://markhasty.com/archives/2004/07/18/born-under-a-bad-sign/#comment-965 ...but what about Michael Jackson's quads??? …but what about Michael Jackson’s quads???

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